What holds most people back? Including myself...
Q - What holds most people back? Including myself...
A deeper understanding of what REALLY holds us BACK is the first step in our transformation. Ignore this and you'll be struggling all your life.
YOU DON'T WANT THAT!
What holds most people back is "EGO".
Credits to Dan Lok for laying it out in this format so that it's easy to understand...
There are 13 types of destructive ego that we struggle with in business and success.
1 . Blame Ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"It's not my fault. It's the Governments fault." It's the economy. It's my co-workers...parents....etc"
People who blame others for their mistakes lose status, learn less, and perform worse relative to those who own up to their mistakes.
2. The Know It All Ego
Do you ever think or say...
"I don't need to read books or seek information. I know what I am doing!"
Speak less, listen more. Ask a few probing questions. Never interrupt.
3. The Fearful Ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"What if it doesn't work? What if I lose money? What if I look stupid? What if I make a mistake?"
Living under constant threat has serious physical and mental health consequences. Fear weakens our immune system.
4. The Comfort Zone ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"I am comfortable. I am happy where I am!"
You never change unless you step out of your comfort zone. Change begins at the end of our comfort zone.
5. The Judgement Ego.
When you see someone successful riding a Ferrari...you think..
"He must be an asshole. Who does he think he is?"
It's not for me to judge another person's life. I must judge only myself...for myself alone.
6. The Excuses Ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"I can't afford it. I don't have money. That's too difficult for me."
The only thing standing between you and your goal is a bulllshit story you keep telling yourself as why you can't achieve it.
7. The People Pleasing Ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"I just want to make sure everybody's happy. I don't want to rock the boat."
I can't tell you the keys to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.
8. The Justification Ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"I am too old. I am an immigrant. I speak with an accent. It's my skin color. I am married and I have kids..."
You justify why you can't do something. Don't justify your failures. You must feel why you must do something not why you can't do something.
9. The Jealous Ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"Rich people are greedy. Rich people are selfish. The Rich don't care."
Life is one big road with lots of signs. So when you are riding through the ruts, don't complicate your mind. Flee from hate, mischief, and jealousy. Don't bury your thoughts, put your vision to reality. Wake up and Live.
10. The Fake Ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"Showing different faces to different people and situation... not being the person who you are..."
Be yourself. It's OK for people to hate you for who you are, rather for loving you for who you are not.
11. The Shy Ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"I am just shy. I am just an introvert. I am not good with people..."
Let us be shy no longer. Let us go to our strength. Let us offer hope. Let us tell the world that a new world is not only possible but probable.
12. Other People's Opinion Ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"What would other people think of me?"
Don't worry what others think of you because you are not obliged to please everyone.
13. The Do It Yourself Ego.
Do you ever think or say...
"If I want something done the right way, I have to do it myself"
One man can be a crucial ingredient on a team. But one man cannot make a team.
------------------------- Hope this was helpful to you as it has been for me.
To your success
Abe
